United States
Dating in the US when you are new to America
New York, Chicago, San Francisco or a smaller city: meet people who moved here too, and Americans who love an accent. Creating a profile is free.
- Newcomer friendly
- Free profile
- Priced in US dollars
- Lots of manually verified members
In short
Dating in the US as a newcomer can feel like learning a new sport, with its own rules and terms. ExpatSingles makes the start easier with people who also arrived from somewhere else. Join free, set your city and distance and get daily suggestions of members near you.
- Who: internationals living in the US, and Americans who like a partner from abroad.
- No charge for: a profile, daily matches, the ID check and up to a few messages a day.
- Where: members across the country, with first date ideas for New York, Chicago and San Francisco.
- VIP: unlimited messages from US$19.99 a week.
People move to the United States for work, study and love, and many land in a big city where everyone is busy. Americans are famously open with strangers, yet making real friends as an adult takes effort, and the dating apps can feel like a game with rules nobody explains. Dating in the US gets easier when you start with people who remember being new.
Why newcomers try online dating in the US
Online dating lets you meet people beyond the office and your building, at your own pace.
ExpatSingles in the US
New to America and looking for a partner? That is what ExpatSingles is for
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A familiar story
Most people here have crossed a border to live, or want a partner who has, so visas, time zones and family far away need no explaining.
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Local suggestions
In a country this big, your matches follow the distance you choose, whether that is your borough or your state.
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Interests that do the talking
Tick Working Abroad, Live Music & Concerts or Road Trips & Adventure Travel and let a match start with that.
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Private by default
Matches know you by a username and a nearby city, not by your name, email or address.
First date ideas
Three classic first dates in American cities
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New York
Central Park
Paths, lakes and benches in the middle of Manhattan, lovely in every season.
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Chicago
The Lakefront Trail
A long path beside Lake Michigan with the skyline on one side and the water on the other.
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San Francisco
Crissy Field
A bayside walk with views of the Golden Gate Bridge, especially pretty on a clear day.
American dating culture: a quick guide for newcomers
American dating culture has its own vocabulary. Many people meet several times before agreeing to be exclusive, and having that conversation openly is normal. Asking directly where things stand is not rude here.
First dates are often short and low key: coffee, a walk or a drink. Who pays varies; offering to split is fine, and so is accepting a kind offer.
The country is huge and every region has its own pace, from fast cities on the coasts to slower towns inland. Keep your search to your own metro area at first.
Free to join
New York or San Francisco, start with what you both want
Say where you live and who you hope to meet, then read your first suggestions. Your profile is free.
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Members who live in the US
A changing selection of ExpatSingles members in the United States, ID-verified members first.
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ID verified Janessa, 26
Elkhart
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Richardlennonp, 60
Oxford
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ID verified Wildflower, 57
Buffalo
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Donnieboy38, 39
Parkersburg
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BrilliantPainter68d51a, 55
England
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Ryank24tino, 65
Sayreville
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CheerfulRomantic, 47
Thomasville
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hrywerr, 42
Ukiah
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Amar, 53
Oregon City
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Nisha1234, 24
Indianapolis
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Johnson44, 56
Charleston
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juicyBarbie001, 38
Chicago
How to start dating in the US on ExpatSingles
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Create a free profile
A username, a good photo and a line about where you grew up.
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Choose your distance
Your neighbourhood, your city or your whole state.
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Verify
The ID check is free; a quick video call with a moderator works too.
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Start chatting
A few free messages a day; VIP when you want no limit.
Safe online dating in the US
- The same basics everywhere. Wherever you live in the US, the basics of a first date are the same: a public place, a friend who knows your plans, and messages that stay on ExpatSingles until you have met in person. If a match keeps pushing for WhatsApp or another app, you will see a warning.
- Gift cards are a warning sign. The Federal Trade Commission is clear: nobody you have only met online should receive money or gifts from you, and a request to pay in gift cards, by wire transfer or in crypto is a warning sign. Report romance scams to the FTC at ReportFraud.ftc.gov or on 1-877-382-4357, and the FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center takes reports of online fraud at ic3.gov.
- Urgent assistance. Call 911 in an emergency.
What ExpatSingles costs in the US
The basics are free. If you decide to upgrade, VIP and VIP Plus are priced in US dollars, and longer plans list their cost per month as well.
| Plan length | VIP | VIP Plus |
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| 1 week | $19.99 | $22.99 |
| 1 month | $39.95 | $51.39 |
| 3 months | $94.95$31.65 a month | $128.44$42.81 a month |
| 6 months | $129.95$21.66 a month | $154.03$25.67 a month |
| 12 months | $229.95$19.16 a monthpaid once | $338.41$28.20 a monthpaid once |
Anything from one week to six months renews until you cancel. Twelve months of VIP are paid once and do not renew. What each membership includes.
Dating in the US: questions from newcomers
Is ExpatSingles good for dating in the US?
ExpatSingles is good for dating in the US if you are new to America, or an American who enjoys meeting people from abroad. Your matches stay close to home because they follow the distance you choose, and it works in any browser.
How much does ExpatSingles cost in the US?
ExpatSingles is free to join in the US. VIP costs $39.95 for a month or $229.95 for a year paid once, about $19.16 a month.
Can I send messages for free?
You can send messages for free, up to a few a day, and reply to anyone with VIP. Verified members also get the group chat rooms, and VIP removes the daily cap.
What is dating in America like as a foreigner?
Dating in America as a foreigner means learning a few new habits: people often date several times before becoming exclusive, and talking openly about it is normal. Many newcomers find it easier to start with other internationals.
Where do I report a romance scam in the US?
A romance scam in the US is reported to the Federal Trade Commission at ReportFraud.ftc.gov, and online fraud to the FBI at ic3.gov. Call 911 if you are in danger.
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